Before I start this blog I would like to send my heartfelt condolences to the whole Hudson family. I cant imagine how you are feeling at this time. Keep your heads up and believe that the lord is embracing your fallen loved ones.
All this week I have been religiously following the tragic events of the Hudson family. If you didn’t hear about it (you really must have been under a rock), singer/actress Jennifer Hudson’s mother and brother were found murdered in their Chicago home (they were both shot). Jennifer’s sister, Julia’s, son went missing and then was found a few days later in their brothers stolen truck - murder. Though no one has been accused, the main suspect is Julia’s estranged husband, William Balfour (who isn’t the kids father) who already had a criminal record - attempted murder and vehicle hijacking in 1999. This story is truly sad an no one deserves to have this kind of tragic on their hands.
I understand that this is a hard time for the family, no one wants to point the blame for this (because seriously, how could you?) on anyone. I understand that now is a time for healing.
HOWEVER,
I just cant stop thinking that this all could have been prevented. I don’t want to pass judgment on the type of woman that Julia Hudson is, because I don’t know her personally, but from what m feeling from hearing the story unfold is that she was looking for love in all the wrong places1. I could be wrong, but I’m feeling that she had some low self esteem and when she finally found a man who “accepted” her for who she is she was happy. So happy in fact that she let a convict into her home where her mother, brother, and 7 year old son lived. I’m not saying that all convicted felons are violent, but this one was convicted of attempted murder .. yeah he didn’t kill anyone, but he attempted to.
I see it all the time around here. One of my friends with two young children came over yesterday to introduce me to her new boyfriend. I always knew this chick was a little off but that shit was just dangerous. I don’t like to judge, but when I saw him all I saw was “thug”. Then, when he opened his mouth he proved me right. Not to mention that he was high as hell when he got here. Here is my home girl with two young children - both girls, and she is running around with this dangerous dude for the sake of “love”. The strongest love a woman should have (outside of any religious love) is the love she has for her child. The love I have for my son is so strong that if Ralph (his father) and I ever broke up I would have to screen any future love prospects heavily. I would not bring someone new into my life and ultimately my child’s life that has been deemed dangerous even in the slightest bit.
So many woman now a day are so blinded by the “well I know he had a past but the past is the past, I’m his future” bullshit. No heffa, the past is not just the past. If you don’t know his past well enough then expect a turbulent future. Don’t be desperate. Love is a great thing, but trust me you want to love the right man. Don’t give your love to someone that is dangerous and non respectful of life and the values that you have. Just because he loves you (or says he loves you) isn’t reason enough to let that man into your life. A lot of woman need to wake up and smell the got damn coffee. Value and love yourself before you give your love to any man. When you love yourself first you’ll be able to weed out the bullshit from the caviar.
And again, please look into your mans past - because it could give a chilling view of your future.
Gotta love the Backstreet Boys but if you believe the “As long as you love me” theory, then you are lost as hell my dear. I’ll pray for you ok?
* WOW! Motherhood is on everyone’s plate this year huh? Shouts to Shine and little “Aliana”, Shannon and little “Sylvia”, Markeyah and little “Caleb” . Also shouts to future mommies Azalea (who’s due any day now) and my girl Faith (due in feb.)
- wooking pah nub in all de wang places - LOL!!! ↩
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Miss Allie. 20 years of age. Kinda crazy, kinda sexy, very cool. Extremely opinionated. Mother of a wonderful baby boy named Bryan Edmond. Crazy In love with Bryans father (unfortunatly lol). Future nursing student (when Bryan turns 6 months).Think of her as your girl six, because her love is the SHIT. Think you can handle more?